The role of a caregiver is challenging and brings many responsibilities – whatever your circumstances. Guest writer, Millie Fuller, shares some ways you can help the caregiver in your life feel appreciated and seen. We’re grateful to Millie for letting us share her words for free.
She writes:
Caregivers give so much of themselves, but often their own needs go unnoticed. They need to feel supported, loved and reassured too, and made to feel that they can give without burning out. With your support, things can feel just that little bit easier.
Here are nine ways you can help the caregiver in your life feel appreciated and seen:
Show gratitude
The easiest way of showing someone you see the hard work they’re doing is to simply let them know. Tell them that their care goes a long way and you acknowledge their efforts. This emotional support will mean more to them than you can imagine. Another way to do this is to include them in your social plans. Simply showing them that you want to see them shows you care outside of them being a caregiver, too.
Have meaningful conversations
Caregivers sometimes feel isolated, but you can let them know that you’re available for a chat. A simple call can be a great help if you live far away from each other. They may not want to tell you about what they’re going through – and that’s alright – they might just need to direct their attention to other things for a few minutes. By asking them what more can be done on your part, they may give you some insight.
Make sure they’re looking after themselves
Everybody needs time and room for themselves. However, it can be easy to push your needs to one side to focus on someone else’s. Remind your caregiver that they should also take care of themselves.
Let them know it’s ok to take a break It’s very common for caregivers to feel guilty when they do something to look after themselves though. Having professionals step in for a short time (‘respite care’) could give them the headspace needed without the worry.
Show them the resources out there
Being a caregiver is a demanding role and if they don’t receive the right support, they can easily become tired and burnt out. There are resources to help. The government can provide financial support to those who regularly spend time caring for someone. There are also resources with information and guidance that can be given to a family caregiver to read through. And don’t forget about support groups – these can be invaluable. When you meet people going through a similar situation to you, it can teach you, and them, a lot.
Give them a present
Sometimes caregivers are so busy that they can’t take time to go out and treat themselves. By giving them a treat – however small – you can make them feel good. Even a snack that they like can put a smile on their face.
Make them food
Cook up their favourite meal. This will help keep their energy high and give them a sense of comfort. Or if you love baking, you could make them a cake or cookies – a sweet treat to make them smile.
Give your time
Caregivers give hours and hours of their time, which can be draining. When possible, offer to step in and help. For example, if they need to attend an appointment, they may appreciate you taking over while they go to it. This will support their wellbeing too, in that they feel they can tend to their own needs.
Do admin and tasks
As well as looking after a friend or loved one, they may also have their own chores to do. Stepping in to do something like the washing up, hoovering or laundry could be just the help that they need. This will also free up the time that they can spend doing something else.
Caregivers give so much, often without expecting anything in return. Whether it’s a little kindness or a helping hand, you can really make a difference. Small gestures go a long way – let’s remind them that they’re never alone.